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We’ve all been there. As much as we want to pole dance all day every day, sometimes life gets in the way. Life may get expensive, your family needs you, we get tired or ill, we lose ourselves in work or in the cold of winter… and when you’ve been out of the game it can be rough getting back on track. Losing your pole groove can be demotivating. So we’re here to help you find your way out of that funk!
Here are five things you definitely should not be telling yourself after a pole hiatus:
“I MISSED OUT ON TOO MUCH”
We know, FOMO is such a big thing these days. Well you didn’t miss out on anything… except we know you missed flying
Pole is all about repetition and practice right? So chances are that whatever you missed out on during your time away, you’ll be doing it again in class! There’s always another chance to learn.
“I CAN’T DO THIS”
Are – you – kidding?!
You did it once before and you can do it again. When you’re feeling down in the dumps and it feels like you’re not getting anywhere, don’t let that negative voice in your head take over. Instead, go back to your past successes. Remember when you first started? Like how hard it was to climb the pole? Remind yourself of what you accomplished and how you managed to overcome those challenges. And tell yourself this is simply another challenge you will eventually overcome, just because you’re still a muthaf*ckn pole ninja.
“IT’S LIKE STARTING ALL OVER”
Kind of. But also, not really. Sure, your muscles will need reminding that there’s hard work to be done and your body will need stretching out to get bendy again, but have faith in your muscle memory. It won’t be as hard you think.
“I SHOULD JUST GIVE UP ON POLE DANCE ENTIRELY”
Oh no you don’t!
You can’t just turn on a switch for passion. It might waiver and die a little sometimes, when you’re stuck in a rut and have lost motivation to continue. You need to find new ways to fuel and feed that passion. Instead of frustrating yourself because you can’t do something (just yet), try to focus on things you already know… go back to what you’re good at and work on making it even better. Like improving the fluidity and flow between spins or combos you already know. Or making your pole climb prettier. Or adding a bit of sass to some simple spins and transitions.
“EVERYONE IS BETTER THAN ME”
Let’s not be dramatic here. Not EVERYONE.
It is so easy to fall into this trap. You start comparing yourself to your pole peers, and you can’t help but feel bad about yourself. Maybe this other person has been blessed with a background in some other sport, maybe she works harder than you, or maybe she is just super talented. Whatever the reason, this is your own journey. Always focus on yourself and compare yourself against your own progress.
Everyone has different strengths and weaknesses. One person might be good at flexi moves but can’t freestyle for love or money where another struggles with tumbles and flips but will mesmerise your socks off with floorwork and body waves.
Find your superpower that makes YOU unique, and believe in yourself.
Here are five things you definitely should be telling yourself after a break from pole:
I’m already so far from where I used to be, and I’m proud of that.
I have lost time to make up for, and I still have a long way to go… but I can do this.
Slow down, deep breaths, start from the top, and try again.
I’m focussing on the many, many things I CAN do, and moving on from there.
I’m still awesome. I am a unicorn.
Everyone is on a different pole journey. If you find yourself at the point where you’re ready to get back on the pole, do it. We’re always here for you!